When you’re no longer on your own, when you belong to someone else, everything suddenly changes. It’s like you’ve joined a ‘couples only’ club. You start finding other couples to double date with because you might make your single friends feel uncomfortable with your mushy happiness; or all you want to do is spend time with each other. Then when you do hang out without your other half, you feel bad that they aren’t with you. Despite the many promises you make to yourself that you’ll spend just as much time with your other friends as before, things don’t always quite pan out.
Is being single so bad? Or is being attached even worse? And how big is the divide?
It seems that those who don’t have someone special in their lives and want one often look through the fence and only see happy couples, people holding hands, people in love, someone who’ll go home with you at night. Those who are attached and find themselves going through the trials that any couple face will suddenly start thinking about how carefree and fun being single is – no ties, no curfews, no obligations, no hurting someone else. When the going gets tough, the grass is always so much greener on the other side.
(For the record, though I don't think being attached or not makes a difference, it's whether you're happy where you are.)
1 comment:
Yep, it matters whether you're happy where you are.
But how can you be happy where you are?
As a single, one of the best thing about it is you can concentrate on whatever you are doing without someone "holding you back." You can just hop on a plane and be somewhere without telling him or her.
But as a couple, it is nice to be able to share your life with each other. there are many, many benefits to being a couple as is being single.
There are benefits to both sides, but of course, there are also downsides to each as well.
Hmm....I may have just restated some of what you said. Ah well.
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