Humans are demanding. We love the feeling of being socially included but we’re never completely happy with the situation. We want the excitement and the passion in relationships but like the thoughts in our heads, these don’t last very long. Once the rose-tinted glasses of infatuation crack, it’s time to come to grips with the real picture.
Sound familiar enough? I’ve lost track of the many times it’s happened to me; I’ve been there, read the script, bought the t-shirt, and outgrown it. But is this really what happens, even if there wasn’t a tangible spark in the first place? Then what’s there to even mellow out? It just gets…boring.
What seemed like a good idea at the time has seen its charm leak away like an old beanbag chair. Being the fickle-minded humans that we are, we grow tired of the same person and boredom creeps in like a disease. Soon we’re looking for reasons to fight, petty arguments that’ll hopefully blow up into something more serious and give us a way out. More often than not, it goes unnoticed, and suddenly “I don’t know why, but it’s just not working anymore”.
The arguments and cold-shoulders breed insecurity. Girls deal with it differently to guys. They tend to turn to other people, simply widening the chasm, and although they might not admit it, it’s the only way they know how to get their offending partner jealous. Toying with emotion usually backfires, but can you really blame them for trying? Guys can seem so thickheaded at times, not open enough, not obvious enough with their affection…
I suppose you have to think of whether it’s worth it. Look past the shrewish nagging bitches that you’ve both become and see if you really do love the person underneath. Working through viciousness like this takes a lot of willpower to swallow your pride and apologize or admit defeat. I won’t gloss it over and say it takes time, because there are some things that even time can’t fix. You just need to talk, minus the ego.
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