Everyone has unannounced but generally accepted labels like 'The one who always cooks" or "The one who always throws parties". I wonder why, although we may complain about how it inconveniences us to perform these social duties, we so jealously guard them from usurpation at the same time.
What is it we feel when someone else tries to fulfill the role that we so covetously hold on to? Is it that you won't have anything left to contribute when you're not needed in that job anymore? And are we so scared of sharing because they might do a better job than us effectively rendering us redundant?
And what about the ones that have no jobs? Are we perceived as freeloaders, hangers on, and social parasites, so much so that the people with the jobs can say to each other, 'Yea well they don't give us anything, and we have to keep on helping them out..."
It's all about social order right? Whoever has the most to offer naturally has the weightiest opinions. It's funny how everything boils down to a struggle for power and a competition for favor.
It happens at the most subtle level, when you want to be the one everyone comes to, the one who's opinions they value highest even if it means having no time for yourself. You want to be the alpha presence.
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